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We have to consider our personal responsibilities concerning safer sex. It would be impossible to describe all the ways that people have sex
with each other. So simply personalize it!
Personalizing SAFER SEX is
integrating information and your desires. Determine what your boundaries for safer sex are with your partner. Communication is so very important! Think about what you like, what you want, what you will allow,
what you fantasize about, what you have never done and want to try. Talk about these things with your partner and talk about what you want,
need and enjoy in a sexual relationship.
Sex is powerful and fulfilling and
your health and the health of your partner should always be important! |
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"Lets face it, every time you have sex with someone, you're having sex with everyone they have had sex with, that they have had sex with, and that they have had sex with...
Are you willing to put yourself at risk for a few minutes of pleasure?
Are you willing to risk contracting something that may have
a huge impact on the rest of your life?
Do you really want to do that to yourself?" |
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| Sexual contact is one of the most common ways to transmit HIV. You can protect yourself by taking simple steps to stay safe.
Everyone who is having or thinking about having sex needs to know how to protect him or herself. It's up to you to do it.
Take the time to care about and protect yourself. |
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| Any sexual activity that does not involve the exchange of bodily fluids is considered safe. These fluids are blood, semen, vaginal fluid and breast milk. |
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Safe is…
Kissing, hugging, and massaging.
Role playing which does not involve body fluids.
Masturbation and fantasizing - alone or with a partner. |
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Safe is…
Having sex with one uninfected partner who only has sex with you.
Monogamy.
Never sharing needles for drugs, steroids, hormones, vitamins, tattoos, or body piercing. |
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| Safer sex is avoiding the exchange of body fluids during sexual activity and greatly reducing your risk of infection. |
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Safer is…
Using a latex condom when having vaginal or anal sex, and if using lube making sure it is water-based.
Using a latex barrier (dental dam) to keep semen, blood (including menstrual) and vaginal fluids out of your mouth when having oral sex. |
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Safer is…
Knowing how to use a condom properly!
Talking to your partner. Asking for and insisting upon safer sex every time you have sex. |
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| • UNSAFE |
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| You run the risk of becoming infected with HIV anytime you exchange body fluids with someone who is HIV positive or whose HIV status you do not know. |
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Unsafe is…
Having vaginal, anal, or oral sex without a latex condom or barrier.
Sharing needles. |
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Unsafe is…
Not knowing how to use a condom.
Being under the influence of drugs or alcohol.
Having sex with someone who does not respect your safer sex boundaries. |
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| The following things are NOT latex compatible. They actually break down
the latex barrier. So when using latex, do not use oil based products such as: |
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• Vaseline or petroleum jelly
• Crisco
• hand or body lotion
• mineral or baby oil
• vegetable or olive oil
• butter or margarine
• animal fats
• whipping cream, chocolate sauce, peanut butter
• liqueurs
• massage or suntan oil
• oil based perfumes |
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| There are a variety of latex safe lubes. Just make sure they are water based (K-Y Jelly) or a silicone lubricant. Hot, safer, romantic, loving, sexy, wild sex can be so much fun and feel so wonderful, especially
knowing that you are protecting yourself and your partner! |
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| Hands, fingers & fists are known as digital sex (and we are not talking about computer sex here!). If your fingers, hands or fist is going in someone's
pussy or ass, use a glove! A glove will protect against small cuts, abrasions, open sores and hang nails. Feces can transmit germs and infections, including Hepatitis. For safe penetration use lots of lube, whether
it's one finger or a whole fist. |
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Dildoes, vibrators, and butt plugs come in a large variety of shapes,
sizes and colors. They can penetrate our mouths, vagina's and ass.
Always dress your dildoe in a new condom. In most cases condoms
do not fit small butt plugs very well. However, you can pull the condom
completely over the flat base to cover the entire plug and pull it well
over the end so that it does not fall off. The butt is very delicate.
Make sure that you use lots of lube to reduce the risk of small tears in the anus. |
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When penetrating with other "creative items" like veggies, cucumbers,
fruits, etc. use a condom as well. |
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| Clean toys are safe toys. Every toy you use needs to cleaned well (germs can live for days and sometimes weeks on a moist surface). |
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• plastic and rubber toys should be cleaned between use with 1 part bleach
and 10 parts soapy water.
• leather toys should not be shared as they
are nearly impossible to clean thoroughly
• vibrators should always be
unplugged and wiped clean so that the electrical mechanisms are kept dry.
Never submerge your vibrator, batteries, cords, or wires in water
• clean sex toys and implements
• store clean latex in a cool, dry place away from sunlight, fluorescent light, direct heat and moisture. |
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| Learn erotic and comfortable techniques for practicing safer sex.
You can do so many things in this world that are "safer sex." |
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| Fetish, fantasy and role playing (imagine your most desired scenario)
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• Latex barriers
• Dental dams
• Condoms (male and female)
• Gloves
• Plastic wrap (non-microwaveable)
• Lube |
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| Kissing on the lips and/or tongue kissing (French) are considered "safer sex". But you need to be aware that HIV, hepatitis C and other blood borne pathogens (viruses found in the bloodstream) can be transmitted through open sores in the mouth, blisters, cold sores, oral herpes, deep cuts and scratches, including bleeding after brushing or flossing your teeth (don't share toothbrushes ). |
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Oral sex is sucking, licking, "eating out", "going down" on your partners labia,
vagina (pussy), penis or ass (rimming). The bottom line is that in order to be
considered safe, you must keep vaginal juices, cum, pre-cum, blood,
including menstrual blood away from your mouth! You can use: |
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• flavored condoms
• latex barriers
• dental dams
• plastic wrap |
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Some people even cut a latex glove in half.
With these things you can still feel the heat, you can still look at,
touch and smell. You just can't taste. To increase the sensation you
can use lubricant on the inside of the barrier (next to the person's genitals). |
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| You and your partner can experiment with different condoms to find out what you like best (which could be a lot of fun in itself!). |
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| Although no prophylactic or
contraceptive can guarantee 100% effectiveness, when used properly latex condoms will reduce the risk of becoming infected with HIV and many other sexually transmitted diseases (such as chlamydia,
genital herpes, genital warts, gonorrhea, hepatitis B, hepatitis C, and syphilis.
Condoms also help prevent pregnancy. |
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| BEFORE using a condom: |
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• make sure it's latex or polyurethane (lambskin does not protect against many infections)
• check the expiration date |
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| WHEN using a condom: |
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• squeeze tip of the condom to remove air
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while the penis is hard, place condom on it's tip and roll all the way
down to the base
• after cumming, withdraw the penis (while it is still hard) holding
onto the rim of the condom so nothing spills
• dispose of condom in the trash |
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| Use a new condom for every sex act. |
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| For more information about different types of male and female condoms, check out Avert's "Using Condoms". |
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| Communicate with your partner about your healthy sex boundaries. Safer sex talk can even be foreplay. Don't compromise your health. Empower yourself with knowledge and then apply that knowledge to protect yourself.
It could mean your life! |
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