Rebekka Armstrong
About Rebekka
Rekekka's Story Why This Site Exists
My Experience With The Virus
In August of 1989, my life completely changed when I was given the news that I had tested positive for HIV. When I say completely, I mean completely! My thoughts, actions, feelings, the way that I viewed my future and my mortality. I was filled with an array of confusion, depression and anxiety attacks.

I was afraid of dying - and of dying alone. But I was more afraid of being exposed; terrified of being shunned because I had this disease. So I was determined to keep this huge, ugly secret deep inside of me.
For five years I rode a nauseating roller-coaster through life trying to figure it all out. "Should I party my ass off and not worry about anything because I'm dying anyway?" I would stay out there in my drug and alcohol fueled world for great lengths until something would kick me into some sort of reality check. Usually the kick came from my body's response to an HIV related illness or too much partying. I would panic and seek medical treatment. But when taking the medications I would often become extremely ill from the side effects and give up right away, not allowing my body the time it needed to adjust. Then I would escape back to the party spinning out of control.

The secret was eating me alive. All the lies I had told to cover up the secret had gotten out of control. I couldn't keep up with all of them. This life seemed useless and I certainly didn't have a place in it. In fact, I hated it. Hated what I had to live with. Hated watching my friends drop like flies, one by one. Hated seeing the pain in my loved ones faces. I hated myself. I wished the virus would rear it's ugly head high and take it's course! When that didn't happen, I made a decision to take my own life. I thought about my options and that seemed like the only one that would work. My plan was to kill myself before the virus did.

An unsuccessful attempt left me in and out of a coma for three days.
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For mental health tips about coping with HIV/AIDS check the University of California at San Franscisco's "HIV Insite"
Rebekka Armstrong
Award winning photo of Rebekka by Paul Antico was adopted at the first Women and AIDS Conference in South Arica
Photo: Women and HIV
Shortly after that while staying at a friends house, I received information in the mail about a seminar for HIV positive women that was going to happen on my birthday. I went... and you might call it the beginning of the end. The end of my roller-coaster ride. The end of my dysmorphic outlook on life. The end of my self destructive behavior and the end of my pity-potty! I didn't know then, but it would become the beginning of my life. How ironic that it would happen on the day that I initially began life.

I became informed and educated, and this empowered me. So much even that I went public with my status and began teaching others and sharing my story. With this, I began to grow and started feeling a sense of self worth, which has escalated ever since. It's not always easy and I still get scared at times. Especially those times when I am too weak to lift my head, unable to walk and barely able to breath. Or when I'm hemorrhaging and being transfused because of a low platelet count. Often times, I become overwhelmed with trying to do too much.

The pain and suffering and utter loneliness I went through shouldn't be felt by anyone. And they certainly don't have to be alone. That's why I put myself out there, in hopes of reaching that person going through what I went through, and to spread awareness to hopefully prevent someone else from being infected.

For me, going public has saved my life. HIV has taught me that I have a purpose and it has given me a reason to live!